Why You Don't Simply "Get Over It"
Often we are taught to wallow in our feelings or to simply "get over it," but there is another way.
"Get over it" is an end result but we are rarely given the opportunity to learn a workable process. Therefore, “get over it” usually takes the form of muscling through, locking feelings in a box, choking down feelings and words. Pushing into pain is also unworkable because emotions move through us, we should not be moving into or becoming overwhelmed by emotions.
This is toxic to our souls and bodies. Not only is this unworkable for artists, this is unworkable for humans!
“Resentment is Like Taking Poison and Waiting for the Other Person To Die.”
Try a Different Approach
Instead, breathe through the emotions and find ease/release in your body. Tension stores trauma and emotions in our bodies.
Release the body, moving outside to inside
The stress response and exerting control increases muscle tension.
Progressive muscle relaxation, shake out the body, or awaken the water body.
Stretch the tongue and release the jaw.
Use the intercostal muscles to intentionally expand the ribcage and find a yawn
Open your inner space
Your emotions are right and you feel whatever it is that you feel.
Breathe and get curious about what's happening in your body.
Breathe and know you are exactly right as you are, feeling as you are.
Take a breath for your self, take a breath for your experience in this moment, take a breath for the work you are doing in choosing a new pathway for yourself.
Things have been quiet on this blog as I have had a lot of projects going on. The best way to stay up-to-date on all of my happenings and offerings is through Vibrance’s Facebook Page.
I launched my theatre company, Burning Bones Physical Theatre and we begin rehearsals early next year.
Recognized for her passion, knowledge, and support of her clients’ individual journeys toward their best selves, Frances Mulinix brings over 20 years of experience in coaching, voice, movement, and performance to support her clients in breaking down blocks, opening the voice, and reaching achievements they had previously not thought possible. Transform your relationship to your mind, body, and voice, bringing new confidence and creativity to your life.
